My middle name is Joye. It’s pronounced “Joy,” like “Joy to the World” or “I’ve got the joy, joy, joy, joy down in my heart” or “joy unspeakable that won’t go away.” There’s just an E on the end because I am unique.
I guess everyone wants to be happy, buy I’ve always had a particular desire to live up to my middle name. I want to overflow with joy. I want everyone around me to know that the joy of the Lord is my strength. But I often fall short of this goal.
According to trite conversation, “Comparison is the thief of joy.”
My personal experiences affirm this cliche. There is always someone that is prettier, smarter, faster, and better than me. When I compare myself to them, I begin to feel inadequate. Feelings of inadequacy lead to a desire to measure up. Then I long to change myself. That’s when I lose my joy.
And I also lose my Joye. I lose the part of myself that makes me unique, and I try to change my unique characteristics to make me comparable to those around me.
But I wasn’t made to be compared to other humans. God made every individual to bring Him glory.
Obviously, I’m not trying to win the approval of people, but of God. If pleasing people were my goal, I would not be Christ’s servant.
So God must be our only Judge. We cannot let worldly standards be our measuring rod. We cannot measure our success by the success of others.
Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a worker who has no need to be ashamed, rightly handling the word of truth.
-2 Timothy 2:15
When our central aim is to glorify God, we quit comparing ourselves to others. Our joy is restored in our pursuit to please Him above all else.
God is my Judge. I am not seeking the approval of man.